Remember, the listening solely to the mind, permits us to form a false impression. Feeling and listening with the heart tells us the truth about a person.
When we are experiencing the Chameleon Effect within ourselves, growing and changing in accordance with our own perception of self, we are unlikely to see the true self in other people. How can we when we don't know our own true self? Any judgements made in this phase are likely to be more an false perception than the true light of that other mortal.
And if our perceptions are tainted by an injury incurred at an early stage in our life, we will see the misjudgement of a person as a betrayal or a rejection. Remember all that are seen around us are but reflections of our own self. Thus when someone's true self shines and it fails to match what our mind has preconceived, we see the other as being at fault. We refuse to accept the error lies within our-self. - Matthew James