[Wake Up World]: In every heartbreak, collapse, or other crisis I’ve experienced, I’ve become poignantly aware of what I’ll call “fringe benefits.” These benefits include increased vulnerability, openness, humility, honesty, compassion, empathy, self-love, and fierceness—all qualities which easily go overlooked in the midst of a healing crisis.
These psycho-spiritual riches contrast sharply with difficulty and the pain of being cracked open. They get trampled over when a brain and body are scrambling in pain and fight or flight, when our focus narrows and we make a bee-line for anything else, the nearest safe harbor. We get busy, even frantic, to distract from our pain, and we become less inclusive as a result. Some of this reaction is helpful, some other part may be an unconscious knee jerk to fear, as opposed to resting in the fear itself, from which we are also able to contact the fringe benefits, which seem to come out during strife—as stars do in celestial darkness...<<Read More>>>...