[Daily OM]: Life is a collage of beginnings and
endings that run together like still-wet paint. Yet before we can begin
any new phase in life, we must sometimes first achieve closure to the
current stage we are in. That's because many of life's experiences call
for closure. Often, we cannot see the significance of an event or
importance of a lesson until we have reached closure. Or, we may have
completed a certain phase in life or path of learning and want to honor
that ending. It is this sense of completion that frees us to open the
door to new beginnings. Closure serves to tie up or sever loose ends,
quiets the mind even when questions have been left unanswered, signifies
the end of an experience, and acknowledges that a change has taken
place.
The period of completion, rather than being just an act of finality, is
also one of transition. When we seek closure, what we really want is an
understanding of what has happened and an opportunity to derive what
lessons we can from an experience. Without closure, there is no
resolution and we are left to grieve, relive old memories to the point
of frustration, or remain forever connected to people from our past. A
sense of completion regarding a situation may also result when we accept
that we have done our best. If you can't officially achieve closure
with someone, you can create completion by participating in a closure
ritual. Write a farewell letter to that person and then burn your note
during a ceremony. This ritual allows you to consciously honor and
appreciate what has taken place between you and release the experience
so you can move forward.
Closure can help you let go of feelings of anger or uncertainty
regarding your past even as you honor your experience -- whether good or
bad -- as a necessary step on your life's path. Closure allows you to
emotionally lay to rest issues and feelings that may be weighing down
your spirit. When you create closure, you affirm that you have done what
was needed, are wiser because of your experience, and are ready for
whatever life wants to bring you next.