[Daily OM]: Sometimes a part of us must die
before another part can come to life. Even though this is a natural and
necessary part of our growth, it is often painful or, if we don't
realize what's happening, confusing and disorienting. In fact, confusion
and disorientation are often the messengers that tell us a shift is
taking place within us. These shifts happen throughout the lives of all
humans, as we move from infancy to childhood to adolescence and beyond.
With each transition from one phase to another, we find ourselves saying
goodbye to an old friend, the identity that we formed in order to move
through that particular time.
Sometimes we form these identities in relationships or jobs, and when we
shift those areas of our life become unsettled. Usually, if we take the
time to look into the changing surface of things, we will find that a
shift is taking place within us. For example, we may go through one
whole chapter of our lives creating a protective shell around ourselves
because we need it in order to heal from some early trauma. One day,
though, we may find ourselves feeling confined and restless, wanting to
move outside the shelter we needed for so long; the new part of
ourselves cannot be born within the confines of the shell our old self
needed to survive.
We may feel a strange mixture of exhilaration and sadness as we say
goodbye to a part of ourselves that is dying and make way for a whole
new identity to emerge in its place. We may find inspiration in working
with the image of an animal who molts or sheds in order to make way for
new skin, fur, or feathers to emerge. For example, keeping a duck
feather, or some other symbol of transformation, can remind us that
death and rebirth are simply nature's way of evolving. We can surrender
to this process, letting go of our past self with great love and
gratitude, and welcoming the new with an open mind and heart, ready for
our next phase of life.