[Daily OM]: Our capacity to cope successfully
with life's challenges far outstrips our capacity to feel nervousness.
Yet in the weeks, days, and hours leading up to an event that we believe
will test our limits, we can become nervous. While we may have
previously regarded ourselves as equal to the trials that lie ahead, we
reach a point at which they near and our anxiety begins to mount. We
then become increasingly worked up, until the moment of truth arrives
and we discover that our worry was all for nothing. We are almost always
stronger and more capable than we believe ourselves to be. But anxiety
is not rational in nature, which means that in most cases we cannot work
through it using logic as our only tool. Reason can help us recognize
the relative futility of unwarranted worry but, more often than not, we
will find more comfort in patterns of thought and activity that redirect
our attention to practical or engaging matters.
Most of us find it remarkably difficult to focus on two distinct
thoughts or emotions at once, and we can use this natural human
limitation to our advantage when trying to stay centered in the period
leading up to a potentially tricky experience. When we concentrate on
something unrelated to our worry -- such as deep breathing,
visualizations of success, pleasurable pursuits, or exercise -- anxiety
dissipates naturally. Meditation is also a useful coping mechanism as it
provides us with a means to ground ourselves in the moment. Our guides
can aid us by providing us with a focal point wholly outside of our own
sphere.
The intense emotional flare-up you experience just before you are set to
challenge yourself is often a mixture of both excitement and fear. When
you take steps to eliminate the fear, you can more fully enjoy the
excitement. Though you may find it difficult to avoid getting worked up,
your awareness of the forces acting on your feelings will help you
return to your center and accept that few hurdles you will face will be
as high as they at first appear.