Both are in close, personal relationships with an emotional manipulator. Both are experiencing fear, stress and anger in their own homes. Both are suffering with their own health and wellbeing because of it.
I believe that there are a huge number of us who have someone like this in our lives. Someone who sucks the joy out of us, jangles at our nervous systems and emotionally manipulates us to get their way. Perhaps we live with them, perhaps they’re in our family or maybe they’re a colleague or neighbour.
So, how do we deal with people like this in our lives, especially when we don’t like confrontation and don’t feel brave enough yet to stand up for ourselves? Well, there are a few ways to deal with them which I’m going to touch upon below, but firstly, I want to get into the nitty-gritty of who these people are and what drives their behaviour.
Often, these people see your joy, your light, your happiness and your sense of wellbeing and they want to take it. In this state you are free from their control and they don’t like it.
They have no emotional intelligence to understand their actions. They are deeply unconscious of their behaviour or else they would take a good look in the mirror and seek out the pain that they need to address to move forwards in their lives.
I find that most emotional manipulators are used to being in a position of power. It’s a place where they can find a sense of control when they have, in the past, been out of control. It’s this need to control someone in their life, for their own benefit, that drives their behaviour. Controlling others feeds their sense of safety and security.
Perhaps they haven’t felt safe in the past, perhaps they don’t feel safe now? Either way, that is just giving excuses to their behaviour....<<<Read More>>>...
