How Can You Spot a Real Narcissist?

The definition of narcissism is an excessive interest in or admiration of oneself. The DSM definition of narcissistic personality disorder is “a pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and lack of empathy.” 

According to Beth Pausic, PsyD, director of behavioral health for Hims & Hers, a person can have some narcissistic traits without reaching the criteria to be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder. 

“Many highly successful individuals display personality traits that might be considered narcissistic,” Dr. Pausic tells DailyOM. “Only when these traits are inflexible, maladaptive, [and] persisting, and cause significant functional impairment or subjective distress, do they constitute narcissistic personality disorder....<<<Read More>>>...

Narcissistic Relationships - From Surviving to Thriving

 A narcissist might be hard to spot in a lineup because they appear like you and me. The main difference between us is that they are very focused on their own needs and desires and will do almost anything to get them met. Narcissists don't care whom they step over to get ahead. They may act as if they care about you, and they might in their own way, but this care comes from a self-serving place. Sharing life with a narcissist may make you feel like you are shouting into the wind, that you are never really heard. The effort required to pacify their infinite well of needs is an exhausting endless cycle. You'll feel insecurities rise, as narcissists can make you feel very small. Narcissists like control and will not allow you to call the shots, as that challenges their own deep insecurities too much. Living with a narcissist consists of too much effort that is not productive for you; it's self-sacrifice with no end in sight. 

Many people have had exposure to a narcissist through family, work, friends, or a romantic relationship. You may wonder what you did to deserve something as brutal as that experience. I will tell you something you may not believe: narcissists are great teachers. This journey has nothing to do with you making bad choices; there is no such thing. We take different routes to get to the same destination. Each direction carries various lessons, and we will always choose the path we are ready for whether we know it or not. A relationship with a narcissist will lead you to extreme clarity around what you don't want. The good news is that you can course correct at any time. Moreover, as your warrior begins to surface to finally set healthy boundaries, to claim your path and your life, and to embody radical self-care, then you will know and understand how this person served you....<<<Read More>>>...
 

Thoughts On “Spiritual Narcissism”

[Collective Evolution]: Narcissism, in a nutshell, is self-absorption to the extent that it will adopt any set of rationale to protect the ego which often includes a degree of self-deception. Is this happening to many in spiritual trends?

There is authentic being, and then there is self-absorption which pretending to be authenticity, are we aware of the difference?

We humans often have a hard time finding middle ground. We may be drowning in lack of self-worth one moment, and trampling over other’s with our own self indulgence the next as we struggle to find balance. Narcissism is not simply about enjoying selfies in our social media-saturated world, it goes deeper than that.

It appears as liberation but is a trap that can ruin relationships, increase personal suffering, and keep a person from their true spiritual aspirations. Not surprisingly, increased mindfulness and compassion for this tricky human quirk is the best way to heal it....<<<Read The Full Article Here>>>...

Bill Gates: ‘Certificates For The Vaccinated Will Be Created To Help Facilitate Global Travel’

[Waking Times]: A few months ago, Bill Gates hinted to the idea that those who aren't vaccinated may not be able to travel.

Do we really live in a democracy when so many decisions are made without the consent of the majority of the citizenry?

According to Bill Gates,

"Eventually what we’ll have to have is certificates of who’s a recovered person, who’s a vaccinated person […] Because you don’t want people moving around the world where you’ll have some countries that won’t have it under control, sadly. You don’t want to completely block off the ability for people to go there and come back and move around. So eventually there will be this digital immunity proof that will help facilitate the global reopening up.”

He expressed his predictions, or perhaps what he plans to do with all of the power he’s amassed, in an interview that took place a couple of months ago. In the interview he also suggested that people should have some sort of digital identification that shows their vaccination status, and that people without this type of “proof” wouldn’t be able to travel.

Whether these intentions are for the coronavirus vaccine or perhaps some other medication down the road, this pandemic is a great example of how close we can come and are coming to mandating ‘medicine.’ It’s no secret that vaccine hesitancy is at all all time high right now, there is a growing hesitancy among scientists and physicians as well, which is why some of them are coming together to support informed consent in a world that continues to grow full of vaccine mandates....<<<Read The Full Article Here>>>...

Narcissism & The Zodiac Signs

Everybody knows a narcissist, even if you think you don't. Narcissists are everywhere — they're our co-workers, parents, partners, and exes.

Some of the better known personality traits of a narcissist are that they're arrogant, self-centered, self-important, manipulative, lacking empathy and compassion, and lastly (but most importantly) like to control people. Yes, narcissists will use you for their own needs and don't care at all about what they do to you in the process.

Narcissism is a somewhat generic term that covers a wide range of narcissism, from extreme narcissism to sub-types of narcissism.When you're involved with a narcissist, it can be very damaging to your self-esteem and feelings of self-worth. Being able to identify one can be the first step in getting your power back.

Narcissists are toxic people, though most would be shocked to hear themselves described that way. They usually have rational reasons for why they behave the way that they do, and getting them to change is very challenging. Once you've been involved with a narcissist, you'll be very careful about not getting involved with another. But they can be charming and deceptive enough that you might let your defenses down. If you can avoid interacting with a narcissist, then do it; if not, tread carefully...read more>>>...

9 Ways to Spot A Narcissist

Power Of Positivity: Narcissistic Personality Disorder: A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning in early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts. – American Psychiatric Association


Here are 9 ways to spot a narcissist:
1. Envies others and/or believes they are to be envied
2. Exaggerated self-importance
3. Preoccupation with status symbols
4. Requires constant admiration
5. “Takes” often, “Gives” little
6. No sense of empathy
7. Displays an “elite” status
8. Strong sense of entitlement
9. Shows arrogance and haughtiness

“Obsession with everything related to self-importance” is a simple and concise way of defining a narcissist. Indeed, these individuals are completely enamored with their own (false) self-perceived worth.

A quick Google search will display several synonyms of narcissism, among them: conceit, egoism, egotism, self-admiration, self-absorption, self-centeredness, self-love, self-obsession, self-regard, vanity. Self, self, self…a pretty obvious recurring theme…and undoubtedly true.

One thing that narcissists aren’t necessarily is self-revealing. It is true that many narcissists do indeed display their penchant of self-everything; something made obvious by the incessant self-talk, self-promotion, or other ongoing diatribes pertaining to…you guessed it…themselves. When such conspicuous dialogue isn’t occurring, they can be witnessed trying to grab attention wherever and whenever possible.

But not all of them.

In true narcissist-like form, some of them will conceal their manipulative talents quite well. In fact, many people who consider themselves to be excellent judges of character can have difficulty in seeing a narcissist for who/what they really are. Their true identity may eventually reveal itself to some, but to most others, narcissists may appear driven, charismatic, ambitious, disciplined, and even fun.

Understanding what constitutes the personality disorder (i.e. symptoms) is the first step in identifying a narcissist. With said knowledge in-hand, one is perhaps better equipped to identify a potential narcissist and respond appropriately. .... read more>>>...

 

How to Spot a Narcissist

At the core of extreme narcissism is egotistical preoccupation with self, personal preferences, aspirations, needs, success, and how he/she is perceived by others. Some amount of basic narcissism is healthy, of course, but this type of narcissism is better termed as responsibly taking care of oneself.

Narcissism, in lay terms, basically means that a person is totally absorbed in self. The extreme narcissist is the centre of their own universe. To an extreme narcissist, people are things to be used. It usually starts with a significant emotional wound or a series of them culminating in a major trauma of separation/attachment. No matter how socially skilled an extreme narcissist is, he/she has a major attachment dysfunction. The extreme narcissist is frozen in childhood. He/she became emotionally stuck at the time of his/her major trauma of separation/attachment.

The protective insulation barrier he constructed is called a false persona. He created a false identity. This identity is not the true person inside. The many types of false personas or identities that an extreme narcissist creates can vary.

Some narcissists may have the ability to change into a variety of identities according to the situation. The wounded child inside may choose to present a front as a “bad ass” and tough individual.

There is also the success oriented narcissist. She will be your friend and keep you close to her as long as you are useful. Once you do not have anything more to offer and she has taken all they wanted from you, you are history. You are no longer desired, wanted, or sought... read more>>>...