Once we can separate ourselves from the heat of the moment,
we may find that the emotional trigger that began the argument has
little to do with the present situation, but may have brought up
feelings related to something else entirely. Looking honestly at what
caused our reaction allows us to consciously respond more appropriately
to the situation and make the best choices.
We can make an agreement with our partners and those closest to us that
asking questions can help all of us discover the source of the argument.
The shared awareness can result in finding simple solutions to
something physical, like low blood sugar or even a hormonal surge. Maybe
we are taking ourselves too seriously, and we can just laugh and watch
the tension dissolve.
We could also discover that perhaps we are addicted to the excitement that drama brings and the chemicals that our body creates when we are angry. But there may be a deeper issue that requires discussion, understanding, and patience. The more we allow ourselves to step back and examine our reasons for arguing, the easier it becomes to allow real feelings to surface and guide us toward solutions that improve our lives....<<<Read The Full Article Here>>>...
