Pain is a fact of being and one that
permeates all of our lives to some degree. Since the hurt we feel may
be a part of the experiences that have touched us most deeply, we are
often loathe to let it go. It is frequently easier to keep our pain at
our sides, where it acts as a shield that shelters us from others and
gives us an identity -- that of victim -- from which we can draw bitter
strength. However, pain's universality can also empower us to use our
hurt to help others heal. Since no pain is any greater or more profound
than any other, what you feel can give you the ability to help bring
about the recovery of individuals whose hurts are both similar to and
vastly different from your own. You can channel your pain into
transformative and healing love that aids you in helping individuals on a
one-to-one basis and spreading a tide of curative energy throughout the
world.
The capacity to heal others evolves naturally within those who are ready
to disassociate themselves from their identity as victims. In fact, the
simple decision to put aside the pain we have carried is what grants us
the strength to redeem that pain through service. There are many ways
to use the hurt you feel to help others. Your pain gives you a unique
insight into the minds of people who have experienced trauma and
heartache. You can draw from the wellspring of strength that allowed you
to emerge on the other side of a painful experience and pass that
strength to individuals still suffering from their wounds. You may be
able to council individuals in need by showing them the coping methods
that have helped you survive or simply by offering sympathy. A kinship
can develop that allows you to relate more closely with those you are
trying to aid and comfort.
Helping others can be a restorative experience that makes your own heart
grow stronger. In channeling your pain into compassionate service and
watching others successfully recover, you may feel a sense of euphoria
that leads to increased feelings of self-worth and optimism. Your
courageous decision to reach out to others can be the best way to
declare to yourself and the world that your pain didn't defeat you, and
in fact it helped you heal. (Daily OM)