However, many of us don't get that far, and
we find that complaining has become an end in itself. In small doses,
this is not a big problem, but if complaining has become a huge part of
our identities, it may be time to take a good look at how we are
spending our energy.
Complaining is a person's way of acknowledging that they are not happy
with the way things are. In a metaphorical way, when we complain or
criticize, we are tearing down an undesirable structure in order to make
room for something new. But if all we do is tear down, never bothering
to summon the creative energy required to create something new, we are
not fulfilling the process. In fact, we are at risk for becoming a
stagnant and destructive force in our own lives and in the lives of the
people we love.
Another issue with complaining is that we sometimes tend
to focus on other people, whom we can't change, as a way of deflecting
attention from the one person we can change -- ourselves. So
transforming complaining into something useful is a twofold process that
begins with turning our critical eye to look at things we can actually
do something about, and then taking positive action. ...<<<Read The Full Article Here>>>...
