Daily OM: The most common form of withholding
is what we commonly call "the silent treatment," but withholding
encompasses any unwillingness to express your true feelings. It also
includes an unwillingness to give support, praise, or positive attention
to the people you love. We have all known someone who is impossible to
please, and many of us have suddenly found ourselves at the other end of
a chilly silence with no explanation. At the same time, many of us will
recognize our own tendency to withhold our emotions rather than express
them. Most of us have seen both sides of the withholding dilemma.
Emotional pain is at the root of our tendency to withhold, and
withholding causes pain to the people subjected to it. It is a
dysfunctional pattern that creates a breakdown in communication and
understanding.
No one deserves to be subjected to withholding. Feeling ignored,
disrespected, or shut out, and to not know why, is a terrible feeling.
The first thing to remember if this is happening to you is that you are
not to blame. You are caught in someone else's pain pattern...read more>>>...