Sometimes problems arise in the process of expressing how we feel, but it is always worth it to do the work. Even in our less intimate relationships, expressing ourselves honestly is essential to our sense of well-being. Whether at home with family or in the outside world, successful communication requires some forethought. Otherwise, we risk blundering through our relationships. However, too much forethought can stifle us or cause us to pad our words so much that we end up saying nothing at all or confusing the matter further. The good news is — there are many methods that can come to our rescue, from meditation to visualization to journaling.
If the person we need to communicate with is open to sitting in
meditation together for a set period of time before speaking, this can
be invaluable. When we are calm and centered, we can count on ourselves
to speak and respond truthfully. We also can meditate on our own time
and then practice what we need to say. A visualization in which we sit
with the person and lovingly exchange a few words also can be a great
precursor to an actual conversation. If writing comes easily, we can
write out what we need to say. It may take several drafts, but we will
eventually find the words. The key is to find ways to center ourselves
so that we communicate meaningfully, lovingly, and wisely. In this way,
we honor our companions and create relationships where there is a
genuine sense of understanding and respect. (Daily OM)
