[Daily OM]: Learning to accept the things that
we perceive as wrong can be a difficult task for many of us. Often we
have been brought up to accept that it is normal to feel guilty about
our actions and that by doing so we will make everything seem alright
within ourselves. Even though we might feel that we have a reason to
make up for the choices we have made, it is much more important for us
to learn how to deal with them in a healthy and positive way, such as
through forgiveness and understanding.
When we can look back at our past and really assess what has happened,
we begin to realize that there are many dimensions to our actions. While
feeling guilty might assuage our feelings at first, it is really only a
short-term solution. It is all too ironic that being hard on ourselves
is the easy way out. If we truly are able to gaze upon our lives through
the lens of compassion, however, we will be able to see that there is
much more to what we do and have done than we realize. Perhaps we were
simply trying to protect ourselves or others and did the best we could
at the time, or maybe we thought we had no other recourse and chose a
solution in the heat of the moment. Once we can understand that dwelling
in our negative feelings will only make us feel worse, we will come to
recognize that it is really only through forgiving ourselves that we can
transform our feelings and truly heal any resentment we have about our
past.
Giving ourselves permission to feel at peace with our past actions is
one of the most positive steps we can take toward living a life free
from regrets, disappointments, and guilt. The more we are able to remind
ourselves that the true path to a peaceful mind and heart is through
acceptance of every part of our lives and actions, the more harmony and
inner joy we will experience in all aspects of our lives.