Daily Om: As we begin to truly understand that
the world outside of us is a reflection of the world inside of us, we
may feel confused about who is to blame for the problems in our lives.
If we had a difficult childhood, we may wonder how we can take
responsibility for that, and in our current relationships, the same
question arises. We all know that blaming others is the opposite of
taking responsibility, but we may not understand how to take
responsibility for things that we don't truly feel responsible for. We
may blame our parents for our low self-esteem, and we may blame our
current partner for exacerbating it with their unconscious behavior.
Objectively, this seems to make sense. After all, it is not our fault if
our parents were irresponsible or unkind, and we are not to blame for
our partner's bad behavior.
Perhaps the problem lies with the activity of blaming. Whether we blame
others or blame ourselves, there is something aggressive and unkind
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