The disappointment and shame we feel when
we make what we perceive as a mistake grows until it becomes a dominant
part of our identities. We rationalize our "poor" decisions by labeling
ourselves incompetent decision-makers. However, your true identity
cannot be defined by your choices. Your essence--what makes you a unique
entity--exists independently of your decision-making process.
There are no true right or wrong decisions. All decisions contribute to
your development and are an integral part of your evolving existence yet
they are still separate from the self. A decision that does not result
in its intended outcome is in no way an illustration of character.
Still, it can have dire effects on our ability to trust ourselves and
our self-esteem. You can avoid becoming your decisions by affirming that
a "bad decision" was just an experience, and next time you can choose
differently.
Try to avoid lingering in the past and mulling over the
circumstances that led to your perceived error in judgment. Instead,
adapt to the new circumstances you must face by considering how you can
use your intelligence, inner strength, and intuition to aid you in
moving forward more mindfully. Try not to entirely avoid thinking about
the choices you have made, but reflect on the consequences of your
decision from a rational rather than an emotional standpoint. Strive to
understand why you made the choice you did, forgive yourself, and then
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