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Tuesday, 26 November 2024

Low Self-Esteem & the Illusion of Perfection

 The simple truth is this:

If you aspire to accomplish your dreams, to have the freedom to be yourself, to spiritually evolve, to walk your own path …

… you will never be able to live a fulfilling life unless you rid yourself of low self-esteem and acquire the courage of self-confidence.

On my journey of self-discovery, self-awareness, and self-love, these are some of the secrets that I’ve learned:

We are born with an innate sense of wanting to belong.

As we grow up society helps us form the notion of perfection, or what is “good enough”.

Basically, we need to create an idea to live up to, so that we can feel accepted by everybody.

Our parents tell us what they expect from us, so do our siblings, our teachers and our religions.

Society uses the media to constantly expose us to perfection, from advertisements informing us how outdated our belongings are compared to their new products, to beautiful models selling creams, diets or protein bars.

Comparison is one of the biggest obstacles in finding self-esteem. We use it to find another standard of “perfection” for acceptance.

Through social media sites like Facebook, we constantly use our friends, family and colleagues to measured up to their financial success, or how happy our lives are compared to theirs, or at least what they choose to share.

But the truth is, we only see the surface of other people’s lives, and we know all the imperfection of ours, yet we use this false surface perception as a guideline of how “well” we are doing.

By trying to be good enough and by trying to be accepted, we create an unreal image of perfection that we don’t manage to live up to.

Realizing our imperfection, we reject ourselves....<<<Read More>>>...