[Daily OM]: There are scores of people in the
world who seem to be magnets for calamity. They live their lives jumping
from one difficult situation to the next, surrounded by unstable
individuals. Some believe themselves victims of fate and decry a
universe they regard as malevolent. Others view their chaotic
circumstances as just punishments for some failing within. Yet, in
truth, neither group has been fated or consigned to suffer. They are
likely unconsciously drawing drama into their lives, attracting
catastrophe through their choices, attitudes, and patterns of thought.
Drama, however disastrous, can be exciting and stimulating. But the
thrill of pandemonium eventually begins to frustrate the soul and drain
the energy of all who embrace it. To halt this process, we must
understand the root of our drama addiction, be aware of our reactions,
and be willing to accept that a serene, joyful life need not be a boring
one.
Many people, so used to living in the dramatic world they create, feel
uncomfortable when confronted with the prospect of a lifetime of peace
and contentment. The drama in their lives serves multiple purposes.
Upset causes excitement, prompting the body to manufacture adrenaline,
which produces a pleasurable surge of energy. For those seeking
affection in the form of sympathy, drama forms the basis of their
identity as a victim. And when drama is familial, many people believe
they can avoid abandonment by continuing to play a key role in the
established family dynamic. The addiction to drama is fed by the
intensity of the feelings evoked during bouts of conflict, periods of
uncertainty, and upheaval.
Understanding where the subconscious need for drama stems from is the
key to addressing it effectively. Journaling can help you transfer this
need from your mind onto a benign piece of paper. After repeated writing
sessions, your feelings regarding the mayhem, hurt feelings, and
confusion often associated with drama become clear. When you confront
your emotional response to drama and the purpose it serves in your life,
you can reject it. Each time you consciously choose not to take part in
dramatic situations or associate with dramatic people, you create space
in your inner being that is filled with a calm and tranquil stillness
and becomes an asset in your quest to lead a more centered life.