The meaning we assign to our
experiences -- whether pleasant or distressing, is a very powerful
factor in determining the quality of our lives. What we imagine events
to mean will color the way we feel about ourselves, about the people in
our lives, and about the world at large. If we want to encourage a
positive outlook, well-being, and a sense of self-confidence and even
trust in the universe, we can begin by assigning more peaceful, loving
meanings to what we experience.
Imagine, for example, that a friend fails to show up to a lunch date.
You have choices as to what you will make this experience mean for you.
You could allow being "stood up" to reinforce your feelings of
unworthiness, you could begin to mentally attack your friend's
character, or you could assume that something big must have happened to
cause them to miss the date -- then, you might open yourself up to
enjoying some relaxing time alone.
If you were recently laid off and are having difficulty finding a new
job, consider that you might have hidden gifts or passions that were
untapped in your regular career that you are now available to explore.
The universe might simply be moving you in a more fulfilling direction.
If you have recently lost a loved one, gained weight, lost money, or
gotten in a fight with your partner, see if you can infuse the
experience with meaning that feels loving and empowering and opens a
door for you to embrace life and the world a bit more.
When we begin to bring consciousness to what we are making things mean,
we may be shocked at the messages we have been feeding ourselves all
these years. Try taking the reins and begin assigning a kinder meaning
to the events in your life and you will likely find yourself on a much
more pleasant ride. (Daily OM)